No... not the song by Freddie Mercury!
I was talking to a friend earlier this week about what it is like to live on your own. It's been a while now since I did it. Now, don't get me wrong, I prefer living with someone than not, but one thing that living on your own does for you is clear the mind.
Only recently another friend of mine has moved into their own place. She is 28. It's the first time she has lived on her own in her life and she is starting to find out things about herself. Some things she likes. Others she doesn't. But it certainly is an eye-opener for her.
When I first started living on my own it wasn't really through choice, but through necessity, and at the time I didn't know who I was or what I wanted, because up until then all of my choices and decisions were made with the complicating factor of taking somebody else into consideration. It was only once that was taken away that I was able to actually make decisions for myself, taking nobody else into consideration but myself. And in those first few weeks I learnt more about myself than I had in the 22 years previously.
It is something that I would heartily recommend to everyone. I know that for some people it's not possible because they're already in a relationship or have a commitment to living somewhere and cannot get away from it, but even for a week, or a weekend, or even a day, I would recommend taking yourself away from everyone. Leave your phone at home. Don't tell anyone where you are going and just get away from it all. You will learn so much about yourself it's scary.
Thank you
4 months ago
1 comment:
In a lot of ways its easier to know who you are when you live with someone else, because you see yourself through their eyes. However, i completely agree with you that everyone should have somwhere they can go and be by themselves, to sort out their thoughts and clear their heads. if you've never done it you won't understand what we're on about here...but believe me when i say it's the most rewarding thing you can do for yourself.
i've lived on my own for 3 years now and while i love the company of other people i am so much better knowing myself than i ever was before. take my recent problems (well documented here). i firmly believe that had i not had that time of learning who i was and what i wanted from my life, i would be a broken mess right now.
it's spending the time working out who you are, that lets be who you could be.
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