I don't know if anyone out there watches Nip/Tuck. I'll start off by admitting that I don't. I watched the first couple of series but never really got into it very much. So why do I mention it then? Well, really it's just to tie in with the title of todays blog. It's the line that the plastic surgeons in the show use constantly when they're doing the initial consult.
You may have noticed from previous posts that I do have small problems with self-image issues. So, in the spirit of facing up to these problems, what EXACTLY is it that I don't like about myself so much?
Well where to start? Well, at the beginning I suppose.
I've never been particularly popular. Short children with big ears and ginger hair very rarely are! But it's not that. I don't mind being short (well 5ft 7in). The only thing my shortness ever stopped me doing was being a professional goalkeeper earning millions and millions of pounds a year.... Damn you, why did you curse me with this body! But no, seriously, it's not the height. As for the ears, I've kind of grown into them. So it's definitely not that. Is it the ginger then? It's certainly a possibility. I've tried to dye my hair before but in the end I end up thinking that I look better ginger; and so, it would appear, that none of the things that prevented me from being popular as a child, are the reason I have such a negative self-image now...
So what is it?
I do think that it is childhood related. Many of the things that effect us in later life are. I grew up in a very loving family with a sister who was considerably older than me and a brother who was 11 months older. As we grew up I was always the "clever" one and my brother was always the "sporty" one. Even now, he won't pick up a book unless it's written by a sportsman or about a sportsman. In life, especially at school where we are supposed to be developing our minds, it is a persons physical aspect that seems important, rather than the mental aspect. My brother was always popular at school because he was good at football & running. I was unpopular because I wasn't. It's not as simple as that, of course, it never is. But for the purposes of this blog it will do for now!
Having to grow up in the shadow of a brother who was so much better at the things that mattered to people helped me to develop one hell of an inferiority complex. Even now, he's gone on to do a better job than me. So unless I work out what I want to do with my life from an employment point of view, I doubt my complex will be disappearing any time soon.
Thank you
4 months ago
5 comments:
Good morning and welcome to the LizSara school of shrinkage.
First things first, being a TL for some call centre monkeys is less skilled than controlling company spending, even though it's a better job title.
Second things second, you don't know anyone you went to school with now other than your brother so why does it matter what people might have though of you then? Case in point, i am in touch with 1 person i went to school with and that person was my only friend for a lot of the time i was at school. I have moved on from my school persona, as have you.
third things next, if you were always the clever one then that should be the reason you do apply for jobs, not the reason you don't.
You are taking steps to fix your outward image issues, you need to work on your own to fix your internal ones because no amount of telling you will make you believe.
You remember when all line ‘you have a great personality’ was a put down from a girl, that meant you weren’t cute. Well as we grow up that starts to be the thing people look for in friends. So have a look around you.
Lizsara the worlds most fussy person when it comes to friends, she has one friend from school, then you and Zoe are here oldest, and certainly her closest friends. There must be something about you that keeps people close to you.
Your wife has a heart of gold, and is also a clever discerning person, she choose you because of the person you are.
Then there is Michelle and I, both of which we very found of you, and we are even more fussy than Lizsara.
Your shape, hair colour and job do not define you, you are the product of your experiences, and they have an impact on the way you think about things, but you are more than that.
You should try and look in the mirror and think I have good friends, a perfect wife, a nice house, a team that can win more games than they lose, life is good. If you want more than make a plan, just look at what you have achieved with the diet. The key is the if at first you don’t succeed then try a different approach. The first route may not work, but there is always a way.
If you ever what a chat and a beer from a different perspective from someone you admires your approach to life, you know were I am.
Remember the Jester is just a Alias!
Thank you both :) It's extremely helpful knowing people care. Beer sounds good!
Thank you both :) It's extremely helpful knowing people care. Beer sounds good!
Listen to LizSara, she knows whereof she speaks.
I have no hesitation in telling you that you are a good bloke. And that is why Z loves you so!
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